COUPLES & RELATIONSHIP THERAPY

Couples Therapy: Stop Fighting the Same Fight

You’re not necessarily wondering whether you love each other. You’re wondering why you keep ending up in the same argument, why you can’t seem to feel heard, or why your relationship has started to feel like another thing you have to manage.

When couples get stuck, the problem usually isn’t the argument itself. It’s the pattern underneath it. One partner pursues, the other withdraws. One feels unheard, the other feels criticized. You both become more focused on being understood than understanding each other.

My job isn’t to decide who’s right. It’s to help you understand the cycle you’re caught in and create a different one.

How We Work Together

Gottman-Informed Couples Therapy

I’m Gottman trained and take an active, practical approach to couples work. We’ll identify the patterns that are creating disconnection, address the Four Horsemen, and develop communication and conflict skills you can actually use when emotions are high—not just when you’re sitting in my office.

Repairing Trust & Attachment Injuries

When trust has been damaged by infidelity, secrecy, boundary violations, emotional disconnection, or other ruptures, “just communicate better” isn’t enough. We’ll work toward accountability, transparency, understanding, and meaningful repair.

Non-Monogamy & Polyamory

Open relationships come with their own dynamics and challenges. I work with couples and partners navigating ENM and polyamory, including jealousy, agreements, boundaries, NRE, autonomy, and mismatched needs. You won’t have to explain the basics of your relationship structure before we can start doing the actual work.

Culture, Identity & Relationships

Our identities, families, and cultural backgrounds inevitably shape how we understand partnership, conflict, commitment, and what a “good” relationship is supposed to look like. I bring cultural competence to this work so you can explore those dynamics without having to educate your therapist first.

What You Can Expect

Couples therapy with me is active, direct, and collaborative. We won't spend session after session litigating who said what. We'll slow down the cycle, understand what’s happening underneath it, and practice responding differently.

The goal isn't to create a conflict-free relationship. It's to build a relationship where you both feel understood, respected, connected, and able to navigate the hard stuff together.